I’m sure you might have heard of the saying by Gandhi – “Be the change you want to see in the world”. Well, I will speak for myself – I do like change because change is often for the better. You will adjust to change; however, it can be painful and scary. When it hits hard and all at once, your reaction is “Whoa, I want to run away and scream”. Going through change is difficult when you are in that moment and it is hard to see the good yet to come from it. With change comes growth so don’t avoid it. If you choose to avoid or put off the pain of change it will eventually catch up to you and with full vengeance. Work through the change when it is first upon you. How you handle change will be determined by your spiritual, emotional and physical health so the overall goal is to build these to become stronger.
Why do we as human beings see change as so difficult or impossible? In my opinion and experience, a person may not be ready to do the hard work associated with change. I have noticed this behavior in myself when difficultly arises. For instance, let’s say I have an argument with a family member or friend; I subconsciously want the other person to see my point of view, agree with me and apologize to me for their behavior, especially if I feel I am right about the situation. This can be frustrating, because it could, in fact, be me who is not seeing the full picture. Have you ever been unwilling to accept that there are two ways of looking at an argument? I am right and you are wrong or vice versa? If you lean towards the former what are you really thinking is that you are perfect all the time. Is that really possible? I really don’t think so; eventually you will make a mistake and fall from your pedestal. We are humans – enough said. No one on this Earth can be right all the time. Accepting this fact is difficult for many but necessary for growth.
“All great changes are preceded by chaos.”– Deepak Chopra
If you can ask yourself “what is the lesson from this situation” you may be willing to let go and move on.
Let me explain further – I like to think I analyze situations appropriately. This means when an issue arises in myself I want to make sure I figure out why it is bothering me. If it does, is it because I fully don’t realize what the issue is because it is more important to argue the point that “I am right and you are wrong”? Now how many of you are saying, “Yes I agree”. Being right about things did not satisfy me at all. Why – because it means judgement. How so you ask? Well, once I realized that I’m not perfect and that I can be wrong at times, it was a freeing experience and people will feel more comfortable being with you. Life changed drastically for me when I let go of self-righteousness and became aware that being right does not always produce the good feelings you think it would. Eventually, with patience and understanding, I changed my viewpoint on having to be right all the time. If I want others to be less self-righteous and get along then I have to be the example first, with the ultimate goal of happiness and at peace.
I can honestly say I like who I am today! Embrace the change; the feeling of being emotionally stronger is inside and out!
Seeing Pope Francis come to New York in September was a life changing event. This Pope exemplifies the positive, forward-thinking changes that are going on in our world. He openly discusses topics that were formerly taboo to the Catholic faith and has engaged others from different religions, cultures and ways of life. He is connecting us all, even those with conflicting viewpoints. This is real change for world. When he came to New York, it seemed like people were in a positive frame of mind, were listening to his messages and following his lead. He showed that miracles can happen – when people coming together to help, to show empathy and care about one other. The impact he had all races and religions and cultures here in New York was amazing to see and hear. I like that change is happening right now and I am okay with it! I hope you will be too!
Lots of peace,